📄 Magic pills, empty shoes, and gentle arguments

A few days ago I wrote that there’s no magic pill: if you expect ChatGPT to write the perfect résumé or the perfect reply to someone — you’re not solving the real problem.

At the same time, I’m absolutely fine with using AI for both. You just need to do it consciously.



Scenario 1: the résumé



Ideally, of course, you’d have gotten ahead of everyone else and started tailoring your résumé with ChatGPT before 9 out of 10 dentists — I mean, job seekers — began doing the same. But even now, you can still use it:




  - **Polish your wording** — especially if you’re not a native speaker (and even if you are, probably polish it anyway). After polishing, make sure to read your résumé again and rewrite parts of it *in your own words*. Imagine reading it out loud: would you stumble somewhere? Would it sound too “salesy”? No one expects a developer to speak like a salesperson, and that little imperfection will show that you actually put in effort.


  - **Ask ChatGPT to highlight strong and weak points** in your résumé for a specific job — but then *rewrite them yourself*. Don’t just accept the version from ChatGPT, because it’ll always sound like maximum-grade corporate nonsense. According to ChatGPT, every one of us has “played a key role in driving project success and increasing KPIs by double digits,” even if our job title was *junior assistant to the middle secretary*. Unlike you, ChatGPT treats every past role as if you personally built a rocket and flew it to space — but your résumé is **your story**, and it should evolve over time.




Scenario 2: the conflict



Now this one’s my favorite. Two people have an argument. One of them, deeply offended, decides to write:




  “You empty shoe, how dare you say that to me?”




— but instead of writing to the empty shoe, he writes to an artificial intelligence.



AI goes:




  “Alright, bro, you’re dealing with a dumbass, but let’s confuse him with kindness.”




And then your dumbass — aka the empty shoe — receives a message like:




  “When you said that, I felt hurt. I understand that you’re not really an empty shoe or a dumbass, but such moments remind me of when my art teacher walked into the principal’s office while I was being scolded. Please don’t do that again.”




I’m deliberately not saying what exactly the empty shoe said or why — because ChatGPT’s advice will always be the same. And your reply will sound **insanely overprocessed**.



But the main thing is — what if he really *is* an empty shoe? Why tell him he’s not?



Or maybe he was actually right, and you could forgive his outburst?



That’s where ChatGPT could actually help: not to rewrite your opponent’s words, but to **translate** them into something caring, warm — yet still from your own position. Try using ChatGPT not to change the person, but to **love** them.



Then you’ll truly have nonviolent communication — because when you love and respect your opponent’s position, you’re not forcing them. And, more importantly, you’re not forcing yourself.